Rewriting Sexuality: How I Unlearned Toxic Masculinity

Looking back, it’s honestly unbelievable the number of things I was told as a young boy that were, at best, horrible advice, and at worst, actual dangerous and predatory behavior….Identifying as female has completely changed the way I think about sex yet again.

Code of Honor [S1x04], or the Most Racist Episode of Television I’ve Seen in Years

My question is this: if we’re taking down episodes of old tv shows that we now know are incredibly racist, why the hell is Star Trek’s “Code of Honor” still on Netflix?

Sports, Masculinity, & Me

“Because I have a penis, I was seen as male, and it was expected of me to play sports. Failure to live up to the masculine expectations of my parents would result in mockery, insults, or grounding, if not physical abuse. So I tried my very best to do what was expected of me.”

The Naked Now [S1x03]—How Star Trek Really Feels About Women

On its surface, the premise of “The Naked Now” is a good one: the entire crew is affected by something that makes them behave as though they are drunk…but the script divides its characters down a gender line: the women are stupid, incapable, horny, and serve no plot function, while the male characters resist their urges and solve literally everything.

Defining “Womanhood”

Being a writer, I’m naturally someone who interrogates our collective definitions & understandings of words. As a writer who is also a woman in transition, a word that’s been on my mind a lot lately is “womanhood.” What does it mean to be a woman, and why is that such a nebulous concept that soContinue reading “Defining “Womanhood””